As we go through this life, we meet folks of different walks of life. They may be of different races, ethnicities, religions, cultures; they may speak different languages, etc. One thing that we generally can understand from all people no matter what is their emotions. Happiness, exhaustion, respect, frustration, appreciation, and anger are all emotions that we can recognize in human beings; no matter the language they may speak. Appreciation of life and bitterness are universal states of being in all walks of life. We see it with our friends, family, co-workers, classmates, managers, teachers, etc. People of all races, ages, and cultures show their progression and bitterness. Some grow to become better. Some grow to become bitter. It has nothing to do with your age or race or whatever it may be. It has everything to do with human nature.
To start off this topic, we look at the statement made in the picture above for this article. It says, “Every test in our life makes us bitter or better, every problem comes to break us or make us. The choice is ours whether we become victim or victor.” We all have a choice in life; no matter what. We have a choice whether we want to continue our friendships or marriages. We have a choice whether we want to stay in a certain community or part of town. We have a choice in getting up for work or staying at home. There are mandates and edicts put in place that we choose to either follow or not follow. It is really up to us what we do or not do. However, there are physical and spiritual consequences for what we either choose or choose not do. We may choose not to go to work for a few days and it costs us our job. We may choose to not come into class, we miss a few key assignments and tests and we end up failing the class and getting left back. There are consequences that come from nearly every decision we make in life. It is simply a risk assessment we make and whether or not the risk is worth it. No one for the most part is forcing us to do anything.
We all have a choice at the end of the day. Some of those choices that we make break us. Some people are bitter because they decided to get married and have kids when deep down, they knew all along that they either weren’t ready for or didn’t even want marriage and kids in the first place. Some people are bitter because they decided to settle for a corporate job for financial security instead of pursuing their own career in monetizing their gifts and doing what they truly enjoy. Some people are bitter because they never made amends for their past mistakes with their ex or friend or family and didn’t reconcile with them. Often the problem is that they take that bitterness out on the people in their circle and we sometimes find ourselves in their circle which makes it bad for us. Nonetheless, the people who have become bitter from their past choices are the ones who chose to become victims. Instead of correcting their mistakes, they choose to wallow in their misery and bring others down with them. You see, it all comes down to what we choose to do.
We choose to correct our mistakes or reinforce our failures. Most choose to reinforce their failures by continuing to be bitter and not letting their past be the past and making something better of their present and future. We cannot change our past but we can change the present and the future. At the end of it all, it is our attitude that dictates where we go in life. Do we live in the past or do we adapt to the now? The ability to adapt is crucial to making it in this life. If we cannot adapt to the world that is ever changing so fast, we will be stuck and left behind.
This is one of the reasons that people are often bitter; the reason being that they live in the past. Some people are actually bitter because things were seemingly better in the past. Entertainment was better, work was better, prices were better, dating was better, etc. Some people cannot adapt to the changing times and how things are now. This leads them to become bitter and to be negative towards everything in the now. They rag on their kids, their wife, their friends, the new generation, etc. Everything now sucks and everything back then was better. There are some who carry that opinion with jest but there are others who carry it with spitefulness. Nostalgia can be a good thing as we can reminisce on our good experiences but it can be used to create a revisionist false reality of our past where we believe that absolutely nothing wrong every happened during that time. I promise you, those who are complaining now about how bad things are were complaining about something else back then. If one typically were to appreciate the present time that they had, they wouldn’t be ragging on about how bad things are now. They’d appreciate the past experiences they had and would be looking towards creating new positive experiences. What typically is the case is that people who were unappreciative of the good times they had now are bitter because they realize that they had a decent life back in the day or there were things that were enjoyable back then and they took it for granted; typically because they were focusing on the negative even then.
It is the “glass half empty” perspective that makes people bitter and toxic. When you keep focusing on what wasn’t done correctly or what wasn’t done today, you create a toxic environment for yourself and everyone around you. You might have seen this with your own parents or family. You could do the dishes or the laundry every day but the one time you miss it, they blow up on you and pretend that you never do what you are tasked to do. The same people who hold that “glass half empty” mentality and express it at the expense of those around them are the same ones who are dissatisfied and disgruntled with their own lives because they’re not getting what they want done or they don’t have what they want. You can only stick around with people like that for so long. Some of it can be tolerable when they’re like that once in a while but when it is a daily thing, you have to get out of that environment.
We need to cut out the negativity from our lives. When we don’t, we allow room for what we’re building to be destroyed by that negativity. There’s been countless people in this life who have lost their house, property, car, money, control of a company, etc all because they didn’t cut out those negative people out of their life. Those negative people can be your partner, your brother or sister, your parents, etc. It can literally be anybody. We have to have the courage to take that necessary step to cut them out of our life. Otherwise, we risk becoming as bitter as they are once they destroy or take what we have.
People will literally stay in these relationships knowing that they’re with a toxic person. They’re cussing each other out. They may be even hitting each other. Yet once they break up, they get confused when their partner starts lying about them on social media or airs out their dirty laundry. Those acts ruin a person’s reputation. Nowadays with social media, that can cost you your job. It can cost you your scholarship or entry into a university. It has happened many times before. So in order to protect your stock which should be your spirit, health, and career, you have to stay in as healthy of an environment as you possibly can. People who are more harm than good will come into our life regardless. However, we have to do our part in recognizing their toxicity and cut them out as quickly as possible. We have to notice the red flags and know what they mean and be able to respond to them.
In a real relationship, you should never have to raise your voice against your partner. If you find yourself arguing with your partner more often than you’re normally conversing with them, that’s a red flag. If your partner is constantly asking to see your phone, that’s a red flag. If you feel that you have to look at someone’s phone to know if they’re cheating or not, that isn’t the relationship for you. You’ll know when a person is loyal to you or not; you just have to pay attention. The problem is that most people don’t pay attention to what their date or partner is saying. Most people are tuning out what the person is saying because they’re too busy clouding up their mind about how to get them in bed or how to impress them. People treat dates now like they’re exams. Their thought process is “Oh, I have to remember to say this line at this time” or “Oh, I have to remember to stand a certain way”. You fluster yourself with all of this nonsense that you think is going to help you attract the person you’re trying to be with when you really should be focused on whether or not the person you’re talking to has their marbles intact. With these people you’re dating, you have to listen. You must be an active listener. You have to be able to read body language. This is so you know what a person is really like, what their true thought process is, and what is lying beneath that camouflage that they’re wearing. Give the person a few weeks or a month and they’ll start telling you who they really are without even them being aware that they’re incriminating themselves. They can only keep up the act for so long.
It is our job to know who we’re getting into. We have to protect ourselves because the people that we may think mean us well or want to be with us can destroy our lives. We have to protect our circle and keep it tight. Most of the people we talk to are there just to fill up the gaps in between our duties that we’re fulfilling. They’re there to kill the time. We have to know who is an acquaintance, who is a friend, who is an ally, who is family, and who needs to be out of our lives. Once we know each of those categories and the type of people that fit into them, we’ll have a better understanding of who we give our time and energy to and who we don’t.
Continuing on, we have to expound on the nature of bitterness. It does not allow us to move forward. It doesn’t allow us to admit defeat and move on. It doesn’t allow us to forgive ourselves for making a mistake. It doesn’t allow us to become better. It is a loser’s mentality. We refer back to the quote in the picture for this article which says,
“Every test in our life makes us bitter or better, every problem comes to break us or make us. The choice is ours whether we become victim or victor.”
When you forgive yourself for your mistakes, you are victorious over your past self. When you continue to be resentful for what you did or didn’t do, you still allow those mistakes to be victorious over you and you let your old self defeat you. You actually regress instead of progress. You know that you made a mistake of letting that person into your life or doing something that was wrong like stealing or being physically abusive but you’re not learning from your mistake because you’re not doing better with yourself. You are just allowing your resentment to fester. It is like a disease, it spreads. It is no good to know that you did wrong when you’re not working to do better things to offset those wrongdoings. We all have done wrong in our lives. We all have things that we’re guilty of. We are all of the flesh which means we’re guilty of sin. None of us are perfect. Yet we still have to clean our slate. It is like what David said in his prayer to the Most High in Psalm 51:7 when he said,
“Purge me with hyssop, and I shall be clean: wash me, and I shall be whiter than snow.”
Every human being who has walked the face of the earth has sinned. The only one who walked this earth who never sinned was the Hamashiach. We should never strive to be perfect because we’ll never be as the Most High’s son. We should strive to do the best we can to love the Most High and His Son, to support ourselves, to love our partner and children, and to be charitable to our brethren. All of those things come before anything else related to this society. Without those things, we just exist and we have no purpose in life. This is why Paul stresses the importance of charity in 1 Corinthians 13. Those who cannot love others usually fail to love themselves. Our ability to be loving and forgiving towards others stems from our ability to love or forgive ourselves. If you don’t love yourself, you’ll hate everyone else around you. That is when the disease of bitterness has grown and it has spread to others. When you do other people wrong because of your bitterness, you make them bitter. You end up being responsible for creating another bitter person in this world because you refuse to forgive yourself for your past failures. When you continue to be bitter, you end up making more mistakes eventually because you can’t control or tame that disease. You dwell on those past mistakes with anger but you are too blinded by that anger to see that you’re just making more mistakes in the present instead of doing right by yourself and by others. You end up hurting other people because you yourself are hurt. Hurt people hurt people.
With that said, we have to bring in the scriptures now to illustrate what we’ve discussed and to give more depth to why we have to purge out bitterness from our souls and from our environment.
Here, we start off with Ephesians 4:31-32 which states,
“Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:
And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as Yah for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.”
You see here the removal of bitterness being stressed in verse 31. Notice the words: wrath, anger, clamour; clamour as in noise. That noise represents the chaos that is disrupting your peace in the form of that bitter person. Clamour in the biblical definition means an outcry. In the Greek, it means kraugē (krow-gay) and it is derived from krazō which means: “properly to “croak” (as a raven) or scream, that is, (generally) to call aloud (shriek, exclaim, intreat): – cry (out)”. That describes noise; a horrific noise at that. Shrieking, screaming, a raven’s croak; all of those things are of an unpleasant nature. That is the nature of those who are bitter. Having a bitter person in your home or in your life is like having a raven constantly around you. It is an unpleasant disturbance in your life that can become a force of destruction.
Then, we see the need of removing all forms of malice from our lives stressed. The spirit of bitterness is malice. Malice in the biblical definition used in this verse means badness, depravity, malignity, trouble, evil, naughtiness, wickedness. We went over how that bitterness spreads to hurt others. They cannot contain that bitterness that long so they go and hurt other people. The essence of maliciousness itself is inflicting harm or suffering upon others. This is why it says to remove all forms of malice in verse 31 because that is to protect yourself and everyone else from those who are bitter. Those who are bitter will eventually outwardly express that bitterness in the form of wrath. Wrath is punishment or indignation as a manifestation of anger.
In relation to this element of wrath and anger and its effects, there is a scene in Star Wars: The Phantom Menace where Yoda and Anakin Skywalker are talking to each other about Anakin’s fear of losing his mother. Yoda then tells Anakin, “Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.” This is a very profound and truthful statement when you look at the nature of those who are either on the path to or have already destroyed their lives. We tend to fear the unknown. Anakin feared the unknown. The state of his mother’s survival was unknown. Soon enough in the next film, we see Yoda’s warning manifest itself when Anakin finds his dead mother and ends up killing the people who were responsible for his mother’s death. His anger of his mother’s death quickly became hatred for those who were responsible and that led to suffering in the form of those people dying at Anakin’s hands. While what Anakin did was understandable, that was written in the film to portray Yoda’s warning against Anakin’s fear becoming true. His warning also is proven correct in the last film of the prequel trilogy when Anakin’s fear of losing his wife leads to his anger at the sense that he is losing control over his own life. That anger eventually leads to his hatred of the people he believes are conspiring against him or are standing in his way to attain the power he needs to prevent his wife from dying. That hatred eventually becomes suffering of all the people that he kills in his rage and also his own suffering when he’s dismembered and burnt badly at the end of the third movie. You also see that progression of those four emotions from his four stages of life as a character. He goes from a fearful boy to an angry Jedi to a hateful Sith to a suffering Sith that is more machine than man as Darth Vader. The saga of Anakin Skywalker is a great illustration of the damage that anger and hatred and fear and bitterness all create.
To contrast from those negative emotions, Ephesians 4:32 stresses kindness, tenderheartedness, and forgiveness. There is no room for tenderness or kindness in the heart of a bitter man. Instead, there is anger and clamour. We spoke earlier on how those who are bitter are usually bitter because they have not forgiven themselves for their past mistakes or wrongdoings. It is because of this that they hold such anger towards themselves and hatred towards the rest of the world. We must learn to forgive ourselves because when there is no room for forgiveness, there is no room for life or freedom from our debts. This is why forgiveness and relief is so important. The essence of tenderness is compassion.
We see this in Zechariah 7:9-10 where we’re told to show mercy and compassion towards our brethren and to not oppress the widow, the fatherless, the stranger or the poor. The strength of a society is measured by how well they treat their most vulnerable and of need. A society, a nation, a kingdom can only last for but a short time when it shows no compassion or mercy for the poor or those in need. When we work to lift each other up instead of working to leave others buried under their poverty and debt, we ensure stability and health to our nation and to our people. This is why America is falling now because of its failure to help those in need. America is bar none the most ruthless empire to ever reign in the world. When you understand the depth of the big banks, the military war machine, the pharmaceutical industry, and how they operate and its impact on the people along with the Luciferian aspect, you understand the sheer brutality of America is unmatched in comparison to every other empire.
Either way, we must be kind, tender, and forgiving to offset any potential bitterness that may arise in our hearts. This is incredibly important for us to do so; especially now. There are so many ways that we can end up becoming bitter if we’re not careful. Many people who are aware and understanding of this matrix system that the world is operating under end up becoming bitter because they don’t have a spiritual foundation to offset that indignation. In order for us to stay sane in these last days, we must turn our hearts to the gospel and invest in kindness, tenderness, and charity. This will be crucial to prevent bitterness from overtaking us.
This next verse Proverbs 10:12 relates to those emotions of hatred, love, and forgiveness. It says,
“Hatred stirreth up strifes: but love covereth all sins.”
Hatred creates quarrels, brawling, bickering, and contention. All of those things cause suffering. It is a lack of forgiveness that leads to hatred of those who we refuse to forgive; including ourselves. Look to how the banking class holds such disdain for the average citizen. In this society, there is no true form of debt forgiveness for the people who borrow. The poor are looked at with such disrespect by the politicians, government officials, bankers, and the aristocrats of this society. They have taught the people to look down upon the poor instead of lifting them up. They make you think that all of the people who are poor are that way because they spent all their money away, they’re trying to game the system for handouts, or they’re too lazy to make something of themselves.
Are there poor people out there who game the system? Of course there are. Are there poor people out there who became poor because they had poor spending habits and went broke? Yes. Are there poor people out there who just live off government assistance and don’t go the distance to be independent? Yes.
However, there are bad apples in every group out there in life. When you look at the poor, the majority of them are either in it because of generational poverty, debt, losing a job, etc. Things happen in life. What is ironic is that the people who look down the most on the poor are those who are a few paychecks away from being homeless themselves. The scriptures emphasize us to give to the poor because it is to make sure that everyone of us are able to pick themselves back up and for our growth to be flowing amongst each other and not just for a select few. This doesn’t mean we give to any and everyone we see who is on the street homeless because there are indeed panhandlers out here. We have to know the signs and have proper discernment but you will know who is genuinely in need. When you’re able to read people, you can tell who is real and who is faking their condition.
Either way, that is one of the many forms of hatred that has created strife within our society today; that being the strife or war between the classes or the strife between the rich and the poor. That is just one example. In relation to the people who are bitter, the hatred they have of others often stems from the hatred that they have for themselves. Of course, it creates the strife that Proverbs 10:12 talks about here. This relates to an extent to Proverbs 15:1 which states,
“A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.”
There is an overlap between this and Proverbs 10:12 where it says that hate stirreth up strife but love covereth all sins. Love turns away wrath but hate stirs up anger which in turn becomes wrath. The spirit of love is tenderheartedness. With this, we are able to understand other people’s emotions and tend to their distress in the form of compassion. With compassion, we are able to read the room and we can gain discernment as to what to say or not to say because we gain greater understanding of the emotions of others. There is wisdom that comes with love.
This is not to confuse love with infatuation or idolatry. Being “in love” with someone is infatuation that is not based in reality. The couples that talk about “being in love” on social media or out in public tend to be the same ones that either are at each other’s throats all the time or break up not too long after they get together. The couples that talk about “being in love” usually don’t last long because they did not set a foundation for their relationship which was based in level-headedness, maturity and perspective. Most relationships now that are wrongfully labeled as love is based in vanity and lust. Sometimes, these modern day relationships can be based in avarice or greed where one or both partners have a greedy desire for attention, status, money, etc. There is no spirituality in these modern day relationships but it is carnality that it is based in and much of it has to do with the breakdown of culture, tradition, and the emergence of Luciferian ideologies.
Going back to verse 12, it says that love covereth all sins. This also can be related to the relationship that the Most High has with Israel. It was through the Most High’s love for Israel that he gave his only begotten son in Yahweh Ben Yahweh to forgive Israel of their sins as we read in John 3:16. In that verse, it emphasizes that “whosever believes in His Son should not perish but should have everlasting life”. There is a dichotomy between belief and everlasting life to non-belief and perishing. We’ve seen this dichotomy several times throughout the scriptures. We know that from Romans 6:23 that it states,
“For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of Yah is eternal life through Yahweh Ben Yahweh our Lord.”
Sin is repaid with death but the love of the Most High and His Son is rewarded with eternal life. This can be seen in the dichotomy between Adam and Christ. Adam was the man of sin who cursed man with death but the Hamashiach was the one who saved man from death because he never sinned while he was here on the earth which was crucial so his sacrifice would be made possible. Yahweh had to take on the sins of Israel by his sacrifice to reverse what Adam did and to justify the life of man. You can read about that in Romans 5:14-15 where they discuss this. Not to digress, that is where you get the imagery of Pan because Pan represents Adam. The goat represents sin. The goat in the biblical times used to be sacrificed for a sin offering. The sins would be placed on the goat to remove Israel of its sins. In contrast, the lamb represents holiness and purity whereas the goat represents sin. As we know, the lamb represents the Most High’s Son Yahweh Ben Yahweh. The worldly man is of sin which is Adam and that is why he is depicted as the goat in the form of Pan. The spiritual man which is Yahweh is likened unto the lamb in the scriptures. So once again, there is that dichotomy there.
We then see from Romans 8:13,
“For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live.”
If you indulge in the desires of the flesh, you will die in your sin. This death is twofold; a spiritual death by way of your soullessness for trading your soul for the riches of the world and being recompensed for doing others wrong by way of your greed and sin and then the death of your soul upon your spiritual judgment. Yet if you kill your sins through the adherence to the laws, statutes, and commandments of the Most High, you will live spiritually and be free of your sin. Christ frees you from sin but the world imprisons you with sin. When you’re imprisoned, you don’t live. When you’re a free man, you indeed live.
One more verse which describes this is John 8:24 which states,
“I said therefore unto you, that ye shall die in your sins: for if ye believe not that I am he, ye shall die in your sins.”
Once again, sin is rewarded with death. When you deny the Most High’s Son, you turn to the world. You live by the world. The world ends up becoming your god; whether it is Satan, Lucifer, the government, a celebrity, money, the woman, etc. You end up placing gods as your head. Anything else in contrast to the Hamashiach is of sin. This is why it is stated in this verse that if you do not believe then you shall be rewarded for your sins with death. You are left to your devices and to live your life because you’re no longer on the Messiah’s spiritual radar. You are left to live your life and make this world your paradise but you have to deal with the spiritual repercussions of doing so once you pass into the spirit world.
With all that in consideration, the reciprocal love between man and Yahweh blots out the death that the sins of the flesh brings to a man’s heart and soul. The bondage of man to the world breeds hatred in man’s heart because sin corrodes the heart and kills the spirit. When we turn to Yahweh with love, the hate we have in our heart for ourselves and others is purged with the hyssop as David spoke of in Psalm 51:7. It is through the love that Yahweh shows us in return for our love that we are forgiven.
The point being made is to drill this in your minds that love and forgiveness are intertwined. They are inseparable. We must love ourselves in order to truly love our brethren. By forgiving ourselves for our mistakes, we allow ourselves to be loved by our brethren. It is the hatred that we hold for ourselves because of our past mistakes of what we did, didn’t do, or what we allowed to be done to us or to be done to those who love that ensnares us with bitterness. So many people push people who mean them well out of their lives because they don’t believe that they deserve to be loved. We have to let go of that and allow ourselves to move on to make better out of ourselves and our lives. Once again, it is through love that we live. It is through love that we are free. It is through forgiveness that we are loved. Bitter people do not love themselves or anybody and therefore allow themselves to not be loved, free or living.
Having said that, let’s continue on with the next verse.
Here is Psalms 31:24 which states,
“Be of good courage, and he shall strengthen your heart, all ye that hope in the Lord.”
We use this verse because it takes courage to heal yourself from that pain. When you are of good courage and exercise courageousness, the Lord will strengthen your mind to be able to forgive yourself for what you feel guilty of. Then of course, David states, “all ye that hope in the Lord” which is important because it speaks to the theme that we discussed previously which is that the salvation of the Lord is what helps free us from our sin and our pain. Remember that our hope in the Lord is for His salvation. When we love the Hamashiach righteously by adhering to the gospel, we are freed from our sins and its weight. It is the love that frees us and strengthens us but it is the hate that ensnares us and weakens us.
It is also interesting that it says “Be of good courage” because that highlights what is inherently missing within a bitter person; that being courage. A bitter person lacks the courage to move forward and to let their mistakes be in the past and move forward because some people quite frankly enjoy giving themselves leeway in being stagnant since it allows them to blame other people for their problems; the very problems that they create for themselves due to their lack of courage to improve. When you make moves to make things better, more of the responsibility falls on your shoulders for what is going on in your life. People are prideful to where they don’t want to confront themselves and admit that they’re the ones holding themselves back. That takes humility which bitter people don’t have because they tend to be self-centered and selfish as all that they’re thinking about is how they were done wrong or how wrong the world is and their entire perspective is centered on blaming everyone and everything as the reason that their life is so terrible. You have to be humble to admit that you were wrong and that you’ve let life go by you because of your bitterness and you’ve held yourself from true progression. In this case, courage and humility go hand in hand.
Now look, we’ve all been done wrong at one point or another in our lives. However, we can make a difference in doing good things for others; even if it is just for one person, even if that one person is you. Our charity starts with how well we treat ourselves. If you don’t treat yourself well, you will never be able to treat others with the level of charity that they may deserve.
When you willingly neglect yourself for the sake of trying to “do good” for others, it can sometimes border on condescendence. Some people want to portray themselves as this martyr figure for the rest of the people in their lives because they get off on the idea of people giving them adulation because of their supposed ‘sacrifice’ to do good for others when really it is not genuine and it is self-inflicted pain for the sake of inflating one’s ego.
This is not to confuse this with the mothers and fathers who at times sacrifice looking after themselves for the sake of caring for their children or family who are in need. There are desperate situations that call for that and that is what comes with true love; that being sacrifice. If you’re not willing to sacrifice for that person you supposedly love, you don’t truly love that person. You may like that person and their vibe or personality but you don’t love them. In order to truly love someone, you must be loyal to them and be willing to sacrifice for them when the time calls for it. Of course, wisdom, maturity, honesty, and affection all factor into love as well.
Back to the verse, it is courage that we need to free our hearts and release ourselves from that snare. Once we take that step to release ourselves, Yahweh will help to strengthen our hearts to rebuild, heal and build anew. From this, we gain that sense of salvation from ourselves. It is really a matter of us needing to be saved from ourselves when it comes to salvation. This spiritual journey is a matter of being able to overcome yourself i.e. the flesh to move with the Holy Spirit in our actions, words and faith.
We continue on with Proverbs 15. Starting with verse 15, it states,
“All the days of the afflicted are evil: but he that is of a merry heart hath a continual feast.”
In the biblical definition, afflicted means “depressed in mind or circumstances.” Evil has a range of meanings in this context. Those meanings which apply are, “adversity, distress, grievous, heavy, hurtful, trouble.” It describes the days of those who are depressed or mentally poor. When you’re poor, you’re in need of something. One who is mentally poor is in need of support, guidance, and relief.
The days of the bitter are grievous, heavy, and full of distress. It is because they themselves bear a heavy heart and are full of distress. For the most part, barring any stumbling-blocks which may come your way, your days are going to reflect your mental and spiritual state. If you’re angry and frustrated all the time, your days are going to consist of events that make you angry and frustrated. This is because normally when we’re negative, we’re looking to find anything that is negative which may occur to blow it up and use it as an excuse to continue being negative. We dictate how most of our days will be by our attitude and our approach to life. If you’re stable-minded and you know where you’re going in life, where you need to go and what you need to get done, your life is going to be stable and simple. It all depends on our attitude and our approach to life. Most people who are bitter are looking at the negative and therefore, their days are full of affliction and negativity.
In contrast, he that is of a merry heart hath a continual feast. This means that one who has a mind filled with kindness, joy, cheerfulness, general positivity, and is at ease will continue to bear the fruits of their labor. They will continue to benefit from the abundance of favor that the Most High gives them and that they create for themselves because of their positive attitude and their focus on creating positivity in their life and in the life of others. Few of the words that are used to define merry are wealth, prosperity, and welfare. You become prosperous and wealthy when your mind becomes wealthy. When you have a great mindset and attitude, you will be able to gain greater clarity as to how to create fruitfulness for yourself and for those you love. Your marriage will thrive, your bond with your children will thrive, the charity with your brethren will expand, and your bond with your family will deepen.
We don’t make too much of an emphasis on financial gain because that is dependent on your financial acumen and your skill level. However, the Most High will make sure that you don’t want for anything and that you will still be stable. Your wealth and abundance is not going to be what you hold in your hands but rather what you will hold in your heart.
One element to this is that those who have a merry heart have gratitude. They are grateful for what they have and what they’ve been given. When there is room for improvement, they look to create more positivity to fill that void. Bitter people are not grateful at all for what they have. Instead of looking to create good where there is a void, they look to tear at other’s hearts to create a void equal to theirs. Once again, hurt people hurt people. They are selfish at heart because they’re only focused on themselves and how they got done wrong and then use it as justification for them doing others wrong and repeating the same behavior that got them in that bitter state in the first place. They look to make excuses to stay in that same miserable ditch because they fear having to be responsible from keeping themselves from falling into that ditch again. At the bottom, they can point the finger at whoever they please. Yet if they were to get back up, they have to take on that new responsibility of caring for themselves and not letting themselves or anyone else get to that low point again. Unfortunately, many people who are bitter choose to stay in that ditch because it’s easier to point the finger than to make something better for yourself.
Verse 16 states,
“Better is little with the fear of the LORD than great treasure and trouble therewith.”
This is to emphasize on the difference between the wealth you receive from the Most High to the wealth you receive from the world. Your wealth will be what you possess in your mind and spirit when you fear the Lord. When you don’t fear the Lord but instead choose to make yourself someone who ought to be feared in a vainglorious manner or you fear the world, you may amass riches but you will inevitably face trouble because you are mentally and spiritually bankrupt. With more money, there come more problems. That is generally the case with many people because the more money they create for themselves, the more they are impoverishing their spirit. Whatever sliver of light that they may have in their spirit is snuffed out by the vain pursuit of money. When you have no intangibles to note of in regards to your character or mind, you are left vulnerable to the hurt that will occur in this life and you’ll be greatly afflicted by it because you have no spiritual foundation. You don’t have that ability to ground yourself in the spirit to help that grief and distress pass and to heal. The flesh cannot do the healing but it is the spirit that must heal the flesh. When your spirit is empty, you let your flesh have gaping wounds whenever they’re created by the troubles of life. The man with just enough will be just fine because he will be merry at heart and will be stable. The wealthy man has to bear the weight of his riches. Without the spirit, you can’t handle that weight and therefore they’re crushed under the very thing they practically gave their souls for.
Verse 17 states,
“Better is a dinner of herbs where love is, than a stalled ox and hatred therewith.”
Notice the use of the word ‘stalled’. Those who are bitter and spiteful are stagnant and are stuck in their self-created mire because of their bitterness. They are not elevating because they’re too busy pointing the finger and being mad. They’re either mad at themselves, other people, the world or all three. We can sit back and point the finger all we want as there are many reasons to be angry about this system but what then? Where will the growth be?
The ox is a metaphor for the hateful person being a ferocious creature in their nature. When you possess that hatred, it causes you to devolve into your most primal state. There is a thin line between a human and an animal. The only thing separating a human from an animal is a conscience. Where there are no laws or statutes regulating the behaviors of men, it becomes a concrete jungle. When you express the most extreme emotions of hatred and envy, you devolve to an animalistic state. Humans and animals have a lot more in common in their nature than one would think. We’ll talk about this in detail in an article of its own.
To reiterate, the person who is hateful is stalled in their hatred. The person who is forgiving and loving progresses in their health and in their spirit. Going back to the verse, it says, “Better is a dinner of herbs where love is.” This means that it is better to have little in possession and maintain peace and charity in your life and in the life of your family than for you to have much and be crippled with bitterness. It is better for you to be able to look yourself in the mirror and maintain your dignity in a shelter than for you to wear shame on your face and fear looking in the mirror in a mansion. That is just a point to make to value your principles instead of forfeiting them for security or comfort. No matter your circumstance, you always stand by your principles. Things can get rough in the beginning when you start this journey and it can get tempting to do certain things to make money or have a place to live. However, it will be far more rewarding when you make something of yourself and you get to where you need to be than to do the wrong thing and get the money or living situation that you want. You will still keep your integrity and dignity. There are so many people out there who are well off who can’t even get up out of bed many days because they’re depressed or they can’t look themselves in the mirror because they’ve done horrible things to get what they have now. Let’s move on to the next verse.
Verse 18 states,
“A wrathful man stirreth up strife: but he that is slow to anger appeaseth strife.”
It is the wrathful man that creates discord and consternation in his home and in his environment. It is the wise man that understands the ramifications of his words, his expressions and his actions and exercises the proper discernment to quell the potential chaos that may come by doing the wise thing. The wrathful man will add fuel to the fire but the wise man will put the fire out. Those who are bitter are driven by their primal state but those who are peaceful are driven by their spiritual state.
Wrath and strife are specifically mentioned as things which are workings of the flesh that will not inherit the kingdom in Galatians 5:19-21. This is for a reason because wrath and strife like all other sins leads to the destruction of life. It destroys the self and it destroys other people who are met with one’s wrath. There are things in this life that will upset us but there is a line between being upset and being bitter. People who are upset or indignant about the unjust things of this world or in their life tend to take the initiative and contribute in some way to make a difference. People who are bitter tend to just sit and blame others for what’s wrong in their life. They are that stalled ox because after awhile, hatred becomes a sort of fix. It becomes fuel for that bitter person. They cannot fathom the idea of forgiveness or charity so their hearts are turned to wrath because their hearts are turned off from forgiveness. With that being said, let’s move to the next verse.
This is Proverbs 16:32 which states,
“He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.”
There is a great deal of power that one has when they are able to control their emotions and their spirit. They are able to control the situation and are able to adapt to whatever changes may come, meaning that they’ll know how to react in any given situation. One that is slow to anger holds more power than those who have much. There are people out there who’ve lost their life, who have left behind families and missed out on the fruits of their labor all because they weren’t circumspect and chose to be prideful.
It is better sometimes for you to let someone run their mouth and let them say what they have to say than for you to add fuel to the fire. Live to see another day. Some people will not be respondent to anything that you say when they’re going through a fit of rage or anger. There are situations where you must stand up for yourself to make sure you have respect and are not considered a pushover. However, there are other situations where you have to be concerned about getting out of it as quickly as possible because we have lives to live, mouths to feed, bills to pay and people to take care of. For instance, if some person curses you out because you might’ve not opened the door for them or you hit the brakes too late on a stop and are encroaching on the stop line where the pedestrians walk, it is better for you to just let it go. You have to control your emotions to get by this life because there are many snares like those situations we just mentioned which can get us riled up and can cut our lives short. When you have that 100 years perspective we talked about a while ago, you understand that this person you’ll never see again cursing you out is not worth you losing your life over. You begin to have a greater understanding of what deserves your energy and what doesn’t.
Those who rule their spirit are indeed better than those who take a city. Some of the best warriors have fallen because they chose to fight the wrong battle. They were moved with pride instead of circumspection. As the saying goes, pride comes before destruction. Those who are prideful don’t rule their spirit because they let their pride and egos rule their spirit. You create longevity for your life when you rule your spirit because you know what is worth your energy and what isn’t. You understand how to minimize your stress because you know what matters and you are able to read the character of other people. A man who rules his spirit has more power than one who rules a nation. The ruler of a nation may have prestige and power but he doesn’t truly have control because he doesn’t understand his spirit nor does he have control over it.
This verse tells us that those who are bitter don’t rule their spirit and it is imperative to rule your spirit and have control over your emotions to get yourself out of that stagnation. You cannot live when you’re bitter; you can only exist. When you forgive yourself and begin to have a heart of charity and a mind of gold, you will become better.
The next verse is Proverbs 19:11 which states,
“The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and it is his glory to pass over a transgression.”
Once again, it speaks to the necessity of discernment and power over one’s emotions. A bitter man does not have control over their emotions but instead they let their anger defer their discretion. A wise man defers his anger with his discretion. It is a matter of what you let direct your life; your spirit or your flesh. We’ll have our days where we’re upset, angry or outraged but we can’t let that rule our spirit. Otherwise, we become bitter people that are stuck in their ways that can’t pull themselves out of their stagnation and move forward in forgiveness of themselves and understanding of what truly matters.
This leads us to the latter part of the verse which states, “it is his glory to pass over a transgression.” To be able to pass over one’s own transgression and the transgressions of others, you are preserving your mind for the next phase of your life. What I mean is that by gaining that ability, you set yourself up mentally to be prepared to deal with the stumbling-blocks that may come and the mistakes that you may make. In this manner, you don’t fall into the same rut again but you evolve mentally to understand where you went wrong, where others went wrong and how to not make the same mistakes again. Remember, people end up becoming bitter not strictly because of how the world is or what they missed out on or how they were done wrong. It is also because they are not willing to forgive themselves for their mistakes or what they perceived as weakness in a moment where they were hurt. That is them not being able to pass over their transgression.
In one aspect, there are people who aren’t able to let go of the past and people whose past won’t let go of them. Those whose past won’t let go of them are usually dealing with trauma that they haven’t healed or recovered from. It may even be a toxic ex-partner who won’t let you go and try to hang around you. On the other hand, those who aren’t able to let go of the past usually are dealing with things that they haven’t resolved in the past if they were negative experiences or things that they long for again because they can’t deal with how their life or life itself has come to be.
Nonetheless, we need to be able to forgive ourselves of our mistakes and even certain mistakes of others to move forward. It is our glory to pass over a transgression because that is a burden that we lift off of our shoulders. Trying to move forward in life without healing old wounds or forgiving yourself is like trying to drive a car with a blown out tire. You might move a little bit but you will be forced to pull over. It is better for you to take the time out of your life to heal your wounds and forgive yourself than to be forced to do so. We all need to take the time to do so.
Next verse is Psalms 37:8 which states,
“Cease from anger, and forsake wrath: fret not thyself in any wise to do evil.”
This is more confirmation of the urgency we must take to remove anger and wrath from our hearts. Anger and wrath is what drives bitterness. It states to not fret ourselves in any wise to do evil because anger and wrath if left unchecked can cause us to sabotage the lives of others. We can end up being that toxic person in other people’s lives who are hurting because of our presence. We can become a cloud of negativity in people’s lives by never supporting them when they do well. Bitter people tend to be pessimistic about everything when it comes to life, their future, and the lives of other people around them.
This form of pessimism normally comes after a phase or continual state of depression. Depression evolves to become pessimism. It is only until one learns to become empathetic again that they turn themselves around and have a more optimistic view of their life. When you bring back a sense of empathy to your heart, that coldness goes away. You start to think more of the feelings of other people and feed into your own cynicism less. That sense of coldness alienates people from your vicinity. It drives them away because they can sense that bitterness in your heart and it is an infectious energy which can infect them if they let it. This is the evil that comes from bitterness which stems from that anger and wrath we are told to remove from ourselves in this verse for this very reason. We must remove anger and wrath from ourselves and from our environment because if it will destroy everything it touches. Things evolve into more corrosive things which we will now get to.
This is James 3:11-14 stating,
“Doth a fountain send forth at the same place sweet water and bitter?
Can the fig tree, my brethren, bear olive berries? Either a vine, figs? So can no fountain both yield salt water and fresh.
Who is a wise man and endued with knowledge among you? Let him shew out of a good conversation his works with meekness of wisdom.
But if ye have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth.”
The sentiment behind verses 11 and 12 is that bitterness does not spring forth from the fountain of knowledge. Bitterness and charity do not intermingle but they rather conflict with one another. Figs cannot come from the vineyard nor can berries come from the olive tree. The gospel does not espouse both charity and bitterness. It praises one and condemns the other. The gospel is not meant to make you bitter but it is meant to drive you to practice charity and meekness in your ways. We cannot possibly do our best in serving the Most High if we have bitterness in our hearts. That is why charity is said by Paul to be greater than faith in 1 Corinthians 13:13 because before we are to have faith, we are to have love. If we don’t have any love for our brothers, we won’t have a true sense of love for the Creator. We won’t truly have love for ourselves if we don’t have love for anyone else. We will simply become narcissistic and self-absorbed; lacking empathy towards our brethren, family and others. Narcissism is not the same as self-love or maintaining a healthy perception of self but it is rather infatuation and placing one’s self on a pedestal. It is self-idolization.
When you put yourself in a bind where you can’t see the good in your life, you become bitter because you’re constantly focusing on the negative. There are many things which we can be rightfully upset about with this world but we cannot drag that into the relationships we have with our friends and family. That indignation we have can become spitefulness and uncontrolled rage that we direct at everyone around us. Then before you know it, you’d have lost everyone around you and you have no one by your side.
It is inevitable that we will reach points in our life and in this journey where we become indignant or disgruntled because of the state of the world; to the point where we need to take part in moments of isolation. However, we cannot let that consume us entirely because at the end of the day, this tribulation we face is for a moment. The mission we have here on the earth if performed correctly will bring us eternal reward. This understanding is why we should not fall into bitterness because we have that spiritual connection that serves as a buffer between ourselves and rage.
Those who do not have a spiritual connection or foundation become bitter when evaluating this matrix system because they don’t see that light at the end of all this. They may believe in methods of revolution or rebellion as a means to dismantle the Luciferian system we’re in but the only way we’re getting out of this is by spiritual means. This is a spiritual warfare that we’re in the middle of. To be honest, we’ve been in spiritual warfare since the Garden of Eden. As Ephesians 6:12 tells us, we’re not in a battle with the flesh but with the spirit. That is the only way we get out of this. The further we as a whole come to this understanding and embrace the love of the Most High to oppose the energy of the adversary, the better it will be for us. The Most High will be victorious regardless of whether or not we as individuals choose to follow the gospel or not. It is for our sake that we do so. The Most High does not lose when you decide to forsake him. Only you are failing yourself and are the one who is losing in this situation if you do that. It is for the betterment of our mind, body and spirit that we follow the gospel and it is for the worse if we decide against it.
The last verse to touch on is verse 14 stating,
“But if ye have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth.”
This is another component of bitterness that we must be aware of. Bitterness can evolve into envy. Bitter people can often rain on the parade of the others around them because they see that those people are happy or that they have something that they feel they deserve to have. This envy can either be held on the inside or it can be acted upon and these bitter people move to take what those people have from them. This is why we have to be weary and aware of bitter people and if they’re in our circle or not because if they are, we have to remove them from our lives for this very reason. If you give them the opportunity to take what you have and you are not circumspect, they will take what you have and put you down.
Once again, bitter people are narcissistic and are thinking from a singular perspective that does not consider other people in their lives. They will put you down without a care in the world and they’ll disregard the pain that they put you through because they feel that they’re taking what they feel that they’re entitled to since they were done wrong and deserve better. It is up to them to make something for themselves, not take what you have. However, there is no accountability that bitter people ever take because they’re not willing to take the accountability of forgiving themselves for their faults. We all have the responsibility of moving on from our mistakes and doing better for ourselves. If we fail to deliver on that responsibility, we become bitter people that are stuck in our faults, never learning. Plus, bitter people think that people owe them something and that the world owes them for what happened to them. Nobody owes us anything. At one point or another, we’re going to be done wrong by people in this life. We ourselves are going to do wrong in this life. It is going to happen whether we like it or not. It is a part of life because we’re in the flesh. The best we can do is to learn from our mistakes to become better people, to keep better company, and to minimize our faults. It does us no good to be mad at the world because of what was done to us. We just make ourselves miserable while others are living their lives and are growing. You then end up becoming envious of them because they have the ability to move on, forgive themselves and learn but you don’t. It is up to us to become better.
On another angle, sometimes, bitter people might even have something going good for them but they look at what you have and try to take what you have. That is the problem with so many people today. They live comparatively and cannot appreciate what they have because they think that someone else has something better than what they have. People are trying to have the perfect job, the perfect relationship, the perfect house, the perfect kids, the perfect everything. What normally is the case is that what they believe is perfect has its own problems and shortcomings but yet you’re trying to blow up what is good in that dynamic for the sake of creating this perfect paradise for yourself.
Perfect is the enemy of good. Do not tear something down that is good with the false pretense that what you’re tearing it down for will be better than what you have. So many people have cheated on their partners with the idea that they were getting with a more ideal partner. They then end up getting left in the dust at the end of it and are at ground zero. They end up losing the good relationship they had and the relationship that they traded the previously good one for. They lose the last relationship because it isn’t genuine. It’s based in either lust, avarice, vanity or all three. Those forces create something for a short moment but not something worthwhile.
This leads us to James 3:15 which states,
“The wisdom descendeth not from above, but is earthly, sensual, devilish.”
Envy and strife is of the flesh and is emotional. Envy is one of the seven deadly sins for a reason. It destroys everything in its path for the pursuit of what it desires. You can argue that the nature of sin is destruction. People who are lustful, greedy, envious, etc end up destroying themselves in the end because of those sins that they’ve let consume them.
It is warned against here because it is to implore the elect to not possess that carnal spirit which breeds discord between each other and ultimately destroys one another if left to consume them entirely. This is where we get the parable of the fig tree not being able to bear olive berries and a fountain not being able to spring forth both salt water and fresh water. You can’t perform the spiritual tasks at hand and be the best brother and father you can be for your congregation and family if you hold these things in your heart.
James 3:16 states,
“For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work.”
Envy and strife breed confusion in your marriages, friendships, families, and communities. The envious person is often playing the person that he wants and their partner against each other to split them apart and get what they want. It is that envious person acting out on his envy which creates that evil work. It is evil to covet your neighbor’s wife and possessions which is why the Most High warns against it and it is one of the key commandments because it creates such destruction.
We have to rein in our bitterness and heal ourselves because it can fester and grow out of our control; leading us to envy and covetousness. We may not covet our neighbor’s wife. We may covet their intellect, their gift, their position among the congregation, etc. You cannot be jealous of what someone else has. You cannot live comparatively because you then don’t live. You simply are using another person’s life as a veneer to mask your own insecurity and inability to accept who you are and make something of yourself. You’re not living because you’re pretending to be someone else. You’re not being true to yourself in developing your own gifts and talents but you are mimicking someone else since you think they have the better gift or talent than you have. Be appreciative of what you have been given, respect what that other person has done for themselves and move to set your own foundation. Do not become envious because all that you end up doing is guaranteeing your own self-destruction.
Getting back to bitterness, we turn to Ecclesiasticus 30:16 whichstates,
“There is no riches above a sound body, and no joy above the joy of the heart.”
In the manner that there is no joy above the joy of the heart, there is no misery above the misery of the heart. Bitter people are miserable in the heart. They are constantly at war with themselves and often times, they don’t even know it. They cannot fully appreciate what they have in life or accept themselves for who they are because they’re not willing to forgive themselves. When you forgive yourself, you accept that you made a mistake. You accept that you can do better and clean that slate. Once you make a better life for yourself that fulfills your purpose here in this world, you end up having that joy of the heart. When you don’t do that, you put yourself in a perpetual state of bitterness.
This leads us to Ecclesiasticus 30:17 whichstates,
“Death is better than a bitter life or continual sickness.”
A bitter life and continual sickness are both used here because they’re very much the same thing. A life of bitterness is a life of a person who is perpetually sick from an emotional and spiritual state. When you don’t cure yourself of that illness you have, you’re simply torturing yourself. As harsh as it may sound, some people who are bitter that don’t look to help themselves would be better off dead. When you’re just focusing on the negative and look to tear down other people to make yourself feel less miserable or to share your misery with them, you’re already dead on the inside. At that point, you just exist to make other people miserable because you don’t want to be alone in your misery, whether you’re aware of it or not. If you’re not willing to spiritually heal yourself from that bitterness you have, then what is your purpose at that point? When you’re not focusing on improving yourself, you end up existing to tear either yourself down or others down. When you’re not here for a good purpose, you inevitably end up being a force of negativity. At that point, you’ll be removed by either being cut off from someone’s life or being literally put down if you end up becoming dangerous enough.
Considering this, we must heal ourselves in order for us to prevent from going down that road of self-destruction. Whatever measure you have to take, whether it is fasting, prayer, scripture, therapy, isolation, etc, do it if you’re willing to get out of that bitterness. It’ll take time and effort but it’ll be worth it in the end if you’re someone who wants to live a spiritually fulfilling life and not a state of existence where you can’t move past your past and are miserable in perpetuity.
Before we end this topic, we wanted to touch on one last component of bitterness which may apply to those of us in this spiritual journey that may be trying to convince those of us in our circle or others of the truth.
Here we read from Ecclesiasticus 21:12 which says,
“He that is not wise will not be taught: but there is a wisdom which multiplieth bitterness.”
Some of us may be trying to convince people of the truth and we may be becoming bitter because they’re not willing to adhere to what we’re trying to say. We cannot overwhelm ourselves in this pursuit because at the end of the day, we do not determine their fate. They have to take the action themselves to find the truth and to accept the truth. The reality is that some people may find the truth but they are not able to accept the truth. Some people are kept from finding the truth because the Lord already knows that they won’t be able to accept the truth if it were revealed to them. We do our part in showing our loved ones certain things and explain it in the simplest way we can; starting from the basics. If you want to try and wake somebody up, start from the smallest level which is the signs and symbols. Don’t start off with the most complex topics like transhumanism, CERN or the manipulation of weather because they’ll write it off immediately. If they can’t get past the signs and symbols or the corruption of the government, then all bets are off because those are the simplest things that even regular people understand now. It may not be their time to wake up now but maybe later down the road they will. However, with some, you can tell whether they’re lost entirely or have a chance.
We cannot fret this though because we must be focused on ourselves in our journey. There is no guarantee that we’ve got a spot in the kingdom because we are still a work in progress. People can turn themselves around by the end and others can lose their spot by the end. We have to keep up the work to avert our own fall. Much of the work that we have to do is conditioning our mind.
The knowledge and wisdom we possess can make us bitter and cause us to turn from the faith if we’re not careful. We can feel overwhelmed by the truth and become overly bitter to where we lose track of our tasks and we instead let our bitterness direct us in our actions to eventually create strife with our brethren at the expense of our favor with the Lord.
This is where we understand Revelation 10:9 where John is told by the angel that the little book will make his belly bitter but it will be as sweet as honey in his mouth because the truth is bittersweet. John like many of the other biblical men felt burdened by their increased awareness and understanding of the world and the refusal of the people to turn to the gospel or see the truth themselves. In the same way that some of us may be bitter that our family or friends can’t see the truth, the biblical men were bitter for this reason as well to a certain extent. However, John did not let this deter him from his mission. He stood steadfast in his faith and never let that bitterness consume him.
John would go into the wilderness to help cope with this bitterness and to grow closer to the Most High. Some of the biblical men who dealt with bitterness would go into the wilderness to be in isolation and deal with that burden that they had. They had a far greater understanding and spiritual intuition than any of us could ever dream of having so this was even more so the case for the biblical men.
What we can learn is that we try to cope with our indignation in whatever way it may help us to do so in a healthy manner. It may be difficult but we must do it in order to endure this journey. We’re human and we’re going to go through all sorts of emotions in this journey. We have to tend to ourselves where we need to tend to when it comes to our emotions, our mind, our physical health and our spiritual state. We have to be strengthening ourselves in the spirit and minimizing the effects of the flesh to endure.
With that being said, let’s move onto the last verse.
Ecclesiasticus 21:15 states,
“If a skillful man hear a wise word, he will commend it, and add unto it: but as soon as one of no understanding heareth it, it displeaseth him, and he casteth it behind his back.”
This speaks to the nature of those who have spiritual insight and those who don’t when it comes to them hearing wisdom. Those who have that sense of understanding, the sheep or the Lord’s flock, will take heed to the truth spoken and move to grow in understanding and progress in their spiritual journey. Those who don’t have understanding, the goats, will disregard the truth and go about their ways with no remorse for their sin.
When they disregard the truth, we may become bitter. While it is understandable, it is still important though to control it as best as we can because that bitterness can spread beyond our control if we’re not careful. We cannot be more concerned about someone’s fate than they are concerned for themselves. We congregate with those who do understand and are in their right mind. We can still have love for those of our friends or family who don’t understand but we cannot let them interfere with our own spiritual journey because if you let them take you off your spiritual path then in the end you will be bitter because you allowed them to do so.
Focus on yourself and where you need to be and support those who are in their right mind and are with you in this journey. We emphasize “right mind” because it is not enough for someone to be awake in the truth to be in your circle. They have to come correct and know their boundaries. Some people will take your kindness for weakness and try to judge you for every little thing that you’re doing in this sanctimonious way because they’re on an ego trip and think they’re holier than thou. Some will try to move in your circle because they’re trying to manipulate you or use you. Being aware of the matrix system or knowing scriptures is not enough to let that person in your life. They have to have good character and be forthright, honest and charitable in their ways. With time and the more experiences we have in this life, you’ll come to discern who should and shouldn’t be in your circle; whether they’re awake or not.
In closing, we ultimately are in control of where we let ourselves go in this life. We can choose to be victims or victors. We can choose to be bitter or better. If we choose to be bitter, we choose to be dead inside. If we choose to be better, we choose to live. The way we become better and remove that bitterness from our hearts is by addressing what is making us bitter. That can range from our lack of forgiveness for ourselves for our perceived weaknesses in letting people take advantage of us, not standing up for ourselves, doing other people wrong to our inability to move on from what may have happened to us. We never forget but we forgive. We never forget but we remember so that we do not fall into the same traps and faults next time. Some things that are done to us may be so cruel that we may never be able to forgive them and it is understandable. Yet we must move to make things better for ourselves and not let our life be controlled by how we were done wrong. We must heal and grow stronger from these experiences. For those who did us wrong and never made up for their mistake, they will be recompensed for their actions in due time. Never worry about that. Focus on making yourself stronger, moving past your past and loving the Most High and His Son with all of your heart because that is the one thing that will not forsake you or show a different face toward you unprovoked. The Lord will be by your side if you are by His side. Our bond may be blocked because of our bitterness. We may have to take the time to heal ourselves first from our bitterness to become fully in tune with our spiritual connection to the Most High. As we read in James 3:11-12, the fig tree does not bring forth olive berries. Bitterness, envy and strife do not intermingle with charity, faith, hope and meekness. They directly collide with one another. This spiritual journey calls upon us to many things but one of the main ones is to strengthen our mind so that we are able to endure the journey and love the Most High to the best of our ability without being hampered by our own wounds that we haven’t healed. In order to heal our bitterness, we have to heal the wounds that are still open. Not only that, we have to allow ourselves to heal. With that being said, that brings this topic to a close. May the Most High have peace and favor upon us all and heal us all where we need healing and strengthen us where we need to be strengthened.